Grade School Code of Conduct: General Guidelines for You and Your Child

Basic Conduct

We all know that their are some basic grade school code of conduct rules that every child should be aware of. Schools are trying to be more and more strict, though, and there may be some rules of which you aren't even aware. To begin with, let's review some of the basic grade school code of conduct rules your child is likely to encounter. These rules apply to both teens and to younger students:

  • Be quiet in the halls.
  • Raise hand before speaking.
  • No passing notes.
  • No hats in the classroom.
  • Bring a note from parents for absences or tardies.
  • No foul language.

Review the section below to see if any of the newer rules apply to your child's school.

Above and Beyond School Rules

The complications that schools now face have caused some interesting rules to be formed. Read through your child's handbook to see if any of the following rules apply. If need be, contact the school to double check so that the first day of school rules won't be broken.

  • Colors of clothing – Schools that exist in areas that have gangs may have rules about specific color combinations. If you live in one of these areas, check with your school to see what the guidelines are. These rules are created to avoid putting your child in harm's way and should be taken seriously.
  • Lining up – In elementary school the children usually have specific lines they must get in before going to the class. Find out exactly where your child should line up so that they are not lost on the first day.
  • Parents in the building – If you plan to drop your child off at school, you need to know what the school's policy is on having parents in the building. Some teachers allow the parents to come directly into the classroom while others prefer that the parents drop the student at the front door of the school.
  • Piercing – Some schools have a no-tolerance policy on piercing. Other schools allow students to wear all or some of their piercings. If your child will be dealing with this issue, make sure to contact the school to find out what the policy is.
  • Cell phones – Many children have cell phones now, but they have no place in the classroom. Please stand by your school administrator's decision to avoid disruption in the classroom.

These rules are more for your child's safety than anything else. Be sure to read your child's school rule book carefully so that you can encourage your child to follow these rules. Parents and teachers need to work together to promote the safety of the students.

Parents as Educators

One of the most complicated parts of sending a child to school is in trusting the educator. As parents, you are educators, too. The child is often confused when the two components conflict. Part of following school rules lies in turning in assignments properly and on time. Teachers need to avoid creating specific schedules and rules for each child. That means they need to use a one-size-fits-all type of method. Use the tips below to help you to let your child know that you are on the same side as the teacher.

  • Do not criticize the teacher's methods. If you do have a conflict with the teacher's methods, then go directly to the teacher. Do not involve the child because this only creates an unnecessary conflict for them.
  • Check your child's homework schedule. Children should write their assignments daily and you should make sure they get them done when they are supposed to be. Turning in a late assignment does not reflect well on the student or the parent.
  • Check over the child's assignments. If the teacher has a specific rule about how the assignment should be formatted, then the child needs to stick with this format. Remember that it is not the format that is important, but the child's ability to follow directions.
  • Do not allow the child to disrespect the teacher as they speak of them. While it's fine for them to have an opinion, if you allow them to disrespect the teacher in front of you then you give your silent consent.
  • Remind yourself and the child that school is about academic studies. The social aspect is secondary. In other words, all the child really has to do as far as their academic studies are concerned is to do what the teacher asks and complete their studies.

This post is part of the series: First Day of School Tips

Use this series of first day of school tips to make sure that you and your child are prepared for the first day of school. From school supplies to the right haircut, you can make sure your child is ready to go!
  1. Understanding Typical Grade School Code of Conduct Rules
  2. Back to School Supplies: Tips to Prepare
  3. First Day of Kindergarten
  4. Starting High School – Tips to Get Your Student Off to a Good Start