Set Up a Peace Table at Home
Implement the use of a peace table or peace corner in the house. Set up a neutral zone where you can have conversations with your child.
When your child is frustrated with you, he should be able to say, "I invite you to the peace table!" He can hold the peace flower and tell you why he is mad, using "I" statements. "I am mad at you because you won't let me go to my friend's house." After he makes his statement, he has to give you the peace flower so that you can respond.
Acknowledge his feelings and then explain why you made your decision. Allow him to give you some feedback. Continue passing the peace flower back and forth. Work on compromise yet remain firm about your decision. You can say something like "Sometimes I have to make some rules that you do not like. I do this because I love you and care for you. Let's talk about another time that you can go to a friend's house or how you can earn a trip to your friend's house."
It is important not to laugh at your child as he expresses how he is feeling even if it seems comical. Remember that these feelings are truly how he is feeling. To laugh at him is to belittle him.
Practice using the peace table before a problem escalates. Demonstrate its use with another adult or older child who understands the process. That way, when the need arises, it is familiar.
If there is limited space to set up a peace corner or peace table in the home, keep the peace flower in a special location such as on a shelf. That way, it is always accessible and can be used anywhere in the house.